Did you think a new thought today or did you go around in circles thinking the same thing over and over?
That’s what I call the crazy eight loop. When we’re on the infinite treadmill of “worry, worry, why why, what if” and circling the infinity symbol, hoping to find an answer.
Maybe it’s time to consider a mindfulness practice to support healing during a divorce.
SO WHAT IS MINDFULNESS?
Simply put, ‘Mindfulness is the art of being fully present, nonjudgmentally, in each moment of our lives’. It is a simple yet profound concept that reminds us to engage with our surroundings, our thoughts, our emotions and our bodies with gentle curiosity and acceptance.
By cultivating mindfulness, we develop a heightened awareness that allows us to become aware of the beauty and joy that exists in even the simplest of experiences. AND there’s more.
The importance of mindfulness goes beyond a fleeting moment of tranquillity. It has been scientifically proven to enhance our mental well-being, reduce stress, improve focus, and foster a deeper connection with ourselves and others. Through the practice of mindfulness, we tap into a wellspring of inner peace and resilience that helps us navigate the challenges that life inevitably brings.
For many of us, we don’t know where to start and if you’re going through divorce with heightened anxiety and stress, then it can feel too overwhelming to start a course and learn something new when everything is unsettled. So to get you started, I want to share this very simple 5-4-3-2-1 practice to help bring you into the present moment, wherever you are.
HERE ARE THE STEPS
Ideally, find a quiet and comfortable space where you won’t be disturbed. If you are feeling anxious or as if a panic attack is coming on, then don’t worry about that, do it wherever you are.
Take a moment to settle into a relaxed posture, either sitting or standing and bring your attention to your breath. Take a deep breath in, and as you exhale, set the intention to let go of any tension or stress.
Now, engage your senses. Notice:
- Five things you can see around you. Take in the details of each object, color, shape, or texture.
- Four things you can feel. Bring awareness to the sensations of touch—perhaps the fabric of your clothes, the warmth of your skin, or the texture of an object within reach.
- Three things you can hear. Tune in to the sounds in your environment, whether it’s the hum of a fan, the rustling of leaves, or distant voices.
- Two things you can smell. Bring your attention to any scents or aromas present, whether it’s the freshness of the air or a subtle fragrance.
- One thing you can taste. If you have something nearby that you can safely taste, take a moment to savor its flavor. It could be a sip of water, a piece of fruit, or even a breath of fresh air.
As you engage with each sense, take a moment to fully immerse yourself in the experience, savoring the present moment. If your mind starts to wander, gently guide your focus back to the sensations you are observing.
This quick and simple practice can help anchor you in the present moment and bring a sense of calm and clarity, even during a busy day. It’s a wonderful way to pause, reset, and reconnect with your immediate surroundings.