The first turning point of my divorce journey was when I decided to accept the reality of my situation.
Six months after my husband had left to live with his girlfriend, he was looking after the children and I begged him to come home. I must have triggered his guilt, or so I thought as he returned to the family home. Four days later he moved out, and I discovered the only reason he came back was because his girlfriend had thrown him out as he had also cheated on her.
It was ten days before Christmas and it was my lowest point. I was sick and tired of the whole situation! I was skinny, if I wasn’t so unhappy I would have celebrated how much weight I had lost, but in truth, I was nauseous all the time and couldn’t eat. I was devastated, anxious and had lost the will to live. I couldn’t believe the man who had once loved me so much could be so callous and selfish. In my heart, I knew it was only me who could change the way I was feeling and if I wanted 2011 to be any different, I had to choose to it.
I was devastated, anxious and had lost the will to live. I couldn’t believe the man who had once loved me so much could be so callous and selfish. In my heart, I knew it was only me who could change the way I was feeling and if I wanted 2011 to be any different, I had to choose to it.
I couldn’t change my Ex’s mind or my situation, I had to change my thinking.
In the midst of my angst, I decided to accept my reality, he was not coming back and I had to move on. I knew I didn’t want to start the New Year depressed and anxious. I wanted to feel different.
So here’s the good bit… You don’t have to wait for a New Year to choose to change your thinking,, you just need to get to the point where you’re sick and tired of your creality and choose to accept it. It will be a tmajor turning point in your journey.
Here’s what you can do…
I have always kept a journal and I started to write…
I’m sick and tired of you behaving like a child…
I’m sick and tired of supporting you emotionally…
I’m sick and tired of your abrupt attitude…
I’m sick and tired of you being a crap inconsistent father…
I’m sick and tired of your lies…
The list went on, I wrote over 200 “sick ‘n’ tired” statements. I let it all out and I realised I was ready to let go of him.
I then wrote another list…
It was the list of what I would love in my life for me and my children and I worked with my intuition on what I truly wanted, it was a rock solid family. I wrote a vision of what that looked like, what we would do and how I would be with my kids and I chose to focus on that.
Power comes from making a choice to accept what is, and in choosing a true vision for you and your family.
You can listen to my Sick’n’Tired Podcast on soundcloud.
If you would love help with writing your list or you want to post some of your “sick ‘n’Tired” in the comments below then we would love to support you on your journey. PS. You don’t need to share your list with your Ex.
With love
