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Is Divorce Stress Getting The Better of You?

​Feelings aren't bad or wrong! They're an indicator of what's going on internally and what you need to move towards or away from to re-align.

We often suppress or don't like to acknowledge our feelings. Difficult emotions such as fear, worry, frustration, loneliness, anxiety, anger, boredom, hurt, jealousy, guilt  and resentment (yes I know there's a lot of them) when ignored end up accumulating and causing stress in the body.

 We get into overwhelm and resort to easing stress by overeating, drinking, vegging out on the sofa watching a Game of Thrones boxset (I must be one of the few people yet to watch it yet!) and going to bed exhausted and then unable to sleep.  Often the suppression of stress leads to us being over anxious and overly sensitive, which means we have an emotional build up and results in "reaction, projection, blaming" and arguments with the people in our lives.  Not helpful when you're going through divorce (or anytime to be honest).

The stress  and anxiety caused by divorce has a double impact on our lives, as often we find it difficult to concentrate at work and we then worry about our productivity, maybe we make mistakes and we worry about loosing our jobs.

Stress creates a fight, flight or freeze response.

When stressed we are in "Survival Mode". This is fine if we're in life threatening situations such as being attacked by a tiger, however it's not helpful in every day life situations and we keep reacting as if we're being attacked.  Everyone has a stress response. Mine very frequently was paralysis. When I was going through my divorce I would feel absolutely paralysed with fear. It was debilitating and completely exhausting.

That's why I became a Heartmath™ Coach

HeartMath™ techniques teach you how to use the power of your heart to TRANSFORM stress. When you transform an emotion or anything,  you are changing it.  The caterpillar becomes the butterfly.

What I loved most about discovering these techniques is that they were science backed. Now, I am quite woo woo, I believe in spirituality, the soul, the universe, higher powers, mysticism etc... BUT I wanted to have something that I could use to teach people that was proven.  HeartMath™ has 26 years of scientific evidence. I love that!​​

Join Me -7 Day Transforming Stress Challenge

I'm going to be sharing techniques that will show you how to :-

* Stop energy drains - you know the negative emotions that steal your energy

* How to use your heart's power and intelligence to stop judging yourself and others

* How to increase your energy and vitality


The Benefits Of An Emotional Power Practice

Emotional confidence and power is the foundation of healthy self-esteem and Happy Healthy Love.

When you don't have emotional power or confidence, it's very likely you spend a lot of time doubting yourself and procrastinating about  decisions. You might find you're in reaction mode, avoiding conflict, afraid to stand up for yourself and unable to express your true feelings as you're worried about the consequences. 

Emotional power comes from choosing to be 100% responsible for your life, your feelings and what you create. Understanding and accepting that life doesn't happen to you, but moves through you. Each and every one of us has creative energy within us and it's up to us how we use it.  When we don't take responsibility for how we feel and what we're creating we often feel like VICTIMs, at the mercy of our circumstances... you know that "why me" mentality.

Victims feel Powerless.

If you want to be free to live the life of your dreams, to have the love you want, to build a career you love, and have fulfilling relationships then its imperative that you learn to access your personal power. The good news is everyone can.

It's time to stop:-

* Giving your power away
* Blaming others
* Over promising, over committing, being overly responsible for other people's feelings.
* Beating yourself up when you make mistakes
* Trying to prove your value or worth
* Ignoring your feeling and needs
* Saying "yes" when you want to say NO!

It's time to learn to:-

* Say "Yes" to things that light you up!
* Cultivate the ability to be aware of your own feelings and separate them from your thoughts
* Learn to distinguish your needs
* Recognise and stand for your true values and not what you think you "should" do
* Set clear boundaries, particularly regarding "burdensome" requests
* Expand your capacity to validate yourself as precious and valuable

When you learn to witness, acknowledge and be with your feelings, you access a new way of relating to your personal power. You realise your emotions are there to guide you and rather than suppressing them, you learn to be with them and transform them.  This is the gateway to freedom.

The first thing I teach anyone who comes to work with me is how to access their personal power and develop a strong emotional core. Click here to sign up for the free download.

Kiss The Single Life Goodbye


New Year’s Eve 2017…. who will you be kissing?

Yes, I know, I’ve been there, it’s midnight and you have no one to kiss… all the couples in the room are finding each other, hugging, smooching and more than ever you feel alone and single…. well enough is enough…it’s time to shake it all up and move on… “the past does not equal the future, unless you live there”...Tony Robbins said that.

Did you say to yourself on January 1st, “That’s it, I am going to find love this year?” if you did, then I’m here to help…

In fact, my number one intention for 2017 is to help 10,000 people have a transformation in love.

What do I mean by that?  I want the people I work with to have a deep awakening to the love within themselves and in their ability to create sustainable loving relationships with others.  My message is simple, it’s all about happy healthy love, if you don’t have that for yourself, it will be impossible to have with another.

So what is happy healthy love and how do you create it?  For me, happy healthy love is about living as your highest, truest expression of love in the world. It’s an expansive way of being. Where you are not only loving your mate or your family. It’s about being present to the deep source of love that’s within you and allowing that love to be expressed outwardly in what you do, how you spend your time and how you show up in the world, it’s a way of relating to yourself and others.  When happy healthy love is your north star it allows you to navigate your relationships from a higher perspective. It opens you up to a whole new way of being. One that’s deeply rewarding and fulfilling.

Unfortunately, many people fall into negative and dysfunctional relationship patterns that keep them feeling disempowered, sad and disillusioned that love will ever be different.  With happy healthy love, you are first and foremost developing a relationship with yourself based on an understanding of your feelings and needs, your ability to self-soothe, to respect and honour yourself. Having healthy boundaries, telling the truth and taking responsibility for your actions and behaviours. When you do this for yourself and live your life from this place, guess what?  You begin to attract people, events and situations in alignment with your truth.

Happy healthy love is about being in a conscious loving relationship with yourself and your partner.

Love is such a powerful force however it’s so easy when we finally do fall in love for our patterns to get triggered and for the relationship to bring up our insecurities,  past wounds, fears and hurts. When you are firmly anchored in a healthy loving relationship with yourself, it gives you a strong foundation to work from in your relationships with others.

So if it’s your intention to kiss goodbye to being single in 2017, then contact me now to find out about Calling In The One Coaching and how to create happy healthy love…

Here’s to your transformation in love in 2017!

With love

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