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Is Divorce Stress Getting The Better of You?

​Feelings aren't bad or wrong! They're an indicator of what's going on internally and what you need to move towards or away from to re-align.

We often suppress or don't like to acknowledge our feelings. Difficult emotions such as fear, worry, frustration, loneliness, anxiety, anger, boredom, hurt, jealousy, guilt  and resentment (yes I know there's a lot of them) when ignored end up accumulating and causing stress in the body.

 We get into overwhelm and resort to easing stress by overeating, drinking, vegging out on the sofa watching a Game of Thrones boxset (I must be one of the few people yet to watch it yet!) and going to bed exhausted and then unable to sleep.  Often the suppression of stress leads to us being over anxious and overly sensitive, which means we have an emotional build up and results in "reaction, projection, blaming" and arguments with the people in our lives.  Not helpful when you're going through divorce (or anytime to be honest).

The stress  and anxiety caused by divorce has a double impact on our lives, as often we find it difficult to concentrate at work and we then worry about our productivity, maybe we make mistakes and we worry about loosing our jobs.

Stress creates a fight, flight or freeze response.

When stressed we are in "Survival Mode". This is fine if we're in life threatening situations such as being attacked by a tiger, however it's not helpful in every day life situations and we keep reacting as if we're being attacked.  Everyone has a stress response. Mine very frequently was paralysis. When I was going through my divorce I would feel absolutely paralysed with fear. It was debilitating and completely exhausting.

That's why I became a Heartmath™ Coach

HeartMath™ techniques teach you how to use the power of your heart to TRANSFORM stress. When you transform an emotion or anything,  you are changing it.  The caterpillar becomes the butterfly.

What I loved most about discovering these techniques is that they were science backed. Now, I am quite woo woo, I believe in spirituality, the soul, the universe, higher powers, mysticism etc... BUT I wanted to have something that I could use to teach people that was proven.  HeartMath™ has 26 years of scientific evidence. I love that!​​

Join Me -7 Day Transforming Stress Challenge

I'm going to be sharing techniques that will show you how to :-

* Stop energy drains - you know the negative emotions that steal your energy

* How to use your heart's power and intelligence to stop judging yourself and others

* How to increase your energy and vitality


Transforming Divorce Stress

OMG!!! Divorce is not only painful but stressful too!

Today I am sharing one of the easiest tips I know for transforming divorce stress. The first thing you have to realise is that YOU ARE WAY MORE POWERFUL THAN YOU THINK, especially right now, if you're going through the mill over your breakup or divorce. 

HOLD on to that thought, remember it, write it on post it notes and stick them all over your house.  Because divorce will test you...

So the reason I want you to remember YOU ARE WAY MORE POWERFUL THAN YOU THINK... is so that you realise you are in control of your emotions, you are the mistress (opps maybe not the best phrase, ) you're the master of your emotional freedom and wellbeing...

So, when it feels like life or your previous partner has the better of you, CHOOSE TO DO THIS...


This is a technique which I learnt whilst training as a HeartMath Coach, and it is one of the simplest but most powerful tools I know which can transform anxiety, panic, fear, stress in the moment, WITH YOUR EYES OPEN... which I think is really helpful.

So the first part is to make the decision in the moment to change the way you're feeling.

1. Focus your attention on your heart area... (yes the left hand side of your body where your heart resides). I would even put your hand on your heart, as it will bring your attention and awareness there.

2. Start to breathe a little more slowly and deeply, breathe in for the count of 4 and out for the count of 4.

3. Do this 3 times and then think of a positive emotion that you would like to feel, such as calm, happy, love, appreciation is usually the easiest... focus on that, if it's helpful use an image, or a memory of being in nature.

4. Notice how your heart rhythm has slowed down, and how you feel more centred and grounded.  

This exercise has a direct impact on your Autonomic Nervous System (ANS) and will stop the secretion of the stress hormones, cortisol and adrenalin and realise the hormone DHEA, which is the vitality hormone.  The more frequently you practice this exercise, the more resilience you will build up in your body and mind.  It will have a direct impact on your emotional wellbeing.

If you have any questions that you need answered, then please comment below.


Maxine x