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Harnessing Your Inner Power

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I absolutely love being on PODCASTs, if you have one and are looking for guests, then please do contact me, I'd love to chat with you to see how I can add value to your audience.

I was recently invited to the Heart's Entwined Podcast hosted by Lyn Smith, where we were discussing the value in harnessing our internal source of creativity and energy, our highest power that guides us through our emotional journey, and how to use this incredibly empowering force to attract and create lasting love and happiness.

It was an absolute joy, I think Lyn and I could have chatted for ages, (we didn't it's only 30 mins).

KEY TAKEAWAYS

  • The more we are connected to our inner source of power and radiance, the more peace and fulfillment we create for ourselves. We must grow from within, in order to gain mastery over our life.

  • Everybody's life is built upon the story of why we are the way we are. Divorce is often seen as a sign of failure, but this is all a matter of perspective. To free ourselves from the pain of unhappiness actually demonstrates great strength.

  • Life will always provide opportunities to grow. Sometimes they look like adversity, barriers or challenges. But there are positives to take from every situation. Every moment is a learning opportunity that makes us better.

  • At the end of any relationship, we take away empowering lessons about not just love, but ourselves. This enhanced awareness allows us to make more informed decisions and choices next time.

BEST MOMENTS

'All relationship experiences are an opportunity for growth'

'Most of us are afraid of our own inner power'

'It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us'

'If you're behaving like a doormat, then people will walk all over you'

Giving birth is the easy part, it’s what happens next!

Arhh and things were never the same again...

We've had so much change lately what with Covid-19, lockdown and numerous restrictions to our every day lives, it got me thinking about when I gave birth to my first child, my son, Daniel and how life was never the same again.

When you're pregnant you hear loads of stories about the awful things that can happen during labour, it engenders so much fear that I wonder why anyone would ever get pregnant, let alone do it more than once.

Here's three lessons I learned when I had Dan that have served me well in all areas of my life, whether it's been raising my children, starting a business, getting divorced, a new relationship, moving countries or dealing with unexpected circumstances.

Be more flexible

I might add, that's not me in the photo!!! When you're expecting, there's this thing called the BIRTH PLAN, and it lists out all the things you want, like epidural, gas and air and in my case, it was a water birth, no drugs, lots of candles, music and my partner.

In reality.... I was induced, which was excruciatingly painful!! The doctor also broke my waters for me - definitely not nice! In the end I had to have gas and air and an epidural!!  I then spent two hours pushing my son out (I think he was warm and cosy and didn't want to come out) - a total of 36 hours in labour!!

So yes, it's important to have a plan, whether it's your life plan, wedding plan, holiday plan... and above all else, be flexible with it, listen to your intuition and don't be afraid to change the plan, if you change your mind or if what you previously thought you wanted is no longer going to serve your highest good.

I know it might seem obvious... AND BREATHE

Breathe and be with every moment... When we're anxious or fearful, we tend to hold our breath, and holding our breath stops the flow of energy in our body. We are made of energy and I like to think of emotion as energy that moves through us that attach meaning and thoughts to.

As we go through life emotions get stuck in our bodies. When we become present to our emotions, name them and breathe through them, the energy and emotions move through us and we shift the energy.

You have the power to shift your emotions through the way you breathe 

Allow yourself to feel bliss

There is this wonderful moment when the baby pops out of your lady parts, when you get hit with a rush of oxytocin and every thing feels amazing. I mean honestly it's such a relief that the baby is out, so it is going to feel good but this is quite indescribably amazing! 

Here's what it taught me, so often in life we strive to reach a goal or create an amazing result, and we forget to experience the bliss, we quickly move on to the next thing, in a rush to get somewhere else.

Giving birth taught me to enjoy my creations, to savour the moment and be present to what is happening right here, right now.

So in conclusion, life will never be the same again, whether it's after having a child, getting married, dealing with the impact of Covid or simply because each and every day you are evolving, growing and becoming more of who you truly are.

It's been 18 years and 4 months since I gave birth to my son and so much has changed in my life. I married his father, and divorced him 10 years later, I was a single mum (to two) and now I'm engaged again and crazily in love.

So many moments of flexibility, breathing with and 
through life and feeling my bliss, thank you

With love

Photo Credits and Thanks: Top Image To Bottom
Kalea Jerielle, Petr Ruzicka, Max van den Oetelaar, Eric Froehling - Unsplash

How To Boost My Year With Autumn Cheer

This most definitely has been my worst August in a long time, not only did I have to cancel my summer holiday, even more devastatingly I had that 4am phone call that every parent dreads...

My son had been admitted to A&E after jumping off a wall and not realising it had a 15ft drop!!! 

I rushed with my ex-husband and daughter to the hospital, whilst driving I was silently praying to God to keep him safe, and let him live.

I wasn't sure if I was being over dramatic, but with the very limited information given to us, I was afraid he was going to be in a coma, have brain damage or be paralysed in some way.

Needless to say, when we arrived at the hospital I panicked that they wouldn't let us in, but fortunately they did...

To cut a long story short, considering the situation, it was a miracle that he had no life threatening injuries and despite needing an operation and some fractures, he would mend. Of which I am glad to say a month later, he is almost fully recovered.

Shock & trauma is a funny thing though...

The 3 am phone call and the shock of seeing him so battered, bruised, and vulnerable sent my body into a trauma response. I was in survival mode for at least two weeks afterward.

I managed to maintain my meditation, and coherent breathing practices but my daily yoga and healthy eating went completely out of the window.

I drank far too much coffee and even though I know what my body needs to feel good, in the stress of everything, I opted for comfort and security and now my body feels exhausted and lacklustre.

WHICH DOESN"T SURPRISE ME... that's my default setting.

My ego always seeks security and as a double whammy when I'm faced with any type of trauma, shock, or uninvited change I tend to go into massive denial and IGNORE what my Soul knows is best for me.

Am I the only person that does this?

NO... I bet you do too. We so often ignore the prompts that our highest self gives us!!

Well, it struck me as I've been walking my dog in the mornings that I need a mind/body REBOOT!!! and what better time than Autumn!

I've always loved Autumn, the leaves forming a blanket on the ground of red, orange and yellow. Clear blue skies, and long walks. So like the leaves, I thought it was the perfect time to let go of this stagnant energy and anything else that's not serving me.

Here's My Journal Prompts to Reboot Energy & Focus
I took time to meditate and journal on these questions:
What do you most want to create in the next four months?
Who would you become if you had that creation in your life?
What are you currently doing that's not serving you?
What do you need to let go of to be living your most radiant life?

Here's what I came up with:
* What I want to create most is energy and vitality in my body
* To finish my book so I can share my love and wisdom around how to heal and have a conscious loving divorce
* I need to let go of coffee and sugar

So I'm going to pour my love and energy into:

* Getting back into my yoga practices, I'm doing a 40-day nabhi kriya
* I'm doing a 40-day mono eating plan (your body needs less energy to digest food)
* I'm completing my book, with 3 hour writing sessions each day.
I thoroughly urge you to use the momentum of Autumn and the above questions to help you reboot your life with new autumn cheer, energy and focus.
With love

the HEART class

“It’s all about the heart”

A fusion of self-discovery, fun and playing with art.

 

Picture improving your relationships with friends, lovers, existing partners, work colleagues, the list is endless. If you want to have better relationships, then this class is for you…

It’s a fun class where we use art and meditation to explore how our thoughts and feelings get in the way of having what we want. Whether it’s a great relationship, fabulous jobs or the body we have always dreamed of.

The way we think and the feelings we have, constantly get in the way of what we want to create or experience in our daily lives.  We are “meaning making machines” and are always making things up, more often than not, in a way that disempowers us, leaving us feeling “not good enough or unloved”. How many times have you had an argument with your spouse or friend and simply not understood why it happened or it’s left you feeling “bad” about yourself?

In this class, we play with art and meditation. We use a simple and easy process to help us to resolve the challenges and conflicts we experience in our lives, whether it’s at work with our colleagues, our partners, children or friends.  This class shows you how to effortlessly tap into your imagination and unlock your creativity. I promise you don’t need to know how to draw to experience the huge learning in this class.

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What’s it all about?

This is a two and a half hour class, where you discover:-

  • How to let go of stress and feel relaxed
  • Create more time for what you love
  • Improve your relationships
  • Learn to listen to your intuition

 

Who’s it for?

Anyone who wants to learn to have better relationships. Families and friends, busy stressed out working or stay at home mums. Career women.  Over a glass of wine, a cup of tea or coffee, it’s a time of fun, laughter and bonding. Arrange an evening at your own home as an alternative to book club, a hen party, birthday celebration, or a simple get together with like minded friends.

Arrange an evening at your home as an alternative to book club, a hen party, birthday celebration, or a get together with  friends.

To host an evening at your home, please contact Maxine.  Alternatively, check here for our next event.

Previous art experience not needed. Art supplies will be provided by the facilitator.