When To Work With A Coach
Is Coaching For Me?
Coaching is perfect for anyone who is feeling:-
- You are feeling scared about your future, stressed, anxious, worried about your kids and finances
- You are feeling stuck, not knowing how to move on with your life
You are feeling lonely and lost, not understanding why on earth this is happening to you
- You want to feel better but you don't know what how to
- You are on an emotional rollercoaster, struggling with anger, resentment, frustration, betrayal and sadness. You're experiencing a deep sense of loneliness and a lack in confidence and self-worth
- You don't know who you are anymore and you fear for what the future holds and if you will ever find love again (that was one of my biggest fears as I had been married twice - I'm now engaged at the age of 52)
You've Discovered Your Partner Has Had An Affair
If you have just found evidence of an affair or your partner has told you about their infidelity then it’s essential to seek unbiased emotional support from an expert. Infidelity in a relationship brings up intense emotions such as shock, anger, betrayal, fear and disbelief. It’s likely you will be feeling a combination of these emotions. You will feel confused about what you want and how to get to the truth of what has happened.
The first six months after the disclosure of an affair is the golden window for relationship recovery. Whilst friends and family mean well, they will be emotionally involved and want to protect you, plus it’s harder for them to forget when you move on. Don’t panic and rush into making decisions too soon. Get professional help.
You have separated from your partner and need someone unbiased to talk to.
Separation will undoubtedly leave you feeling anxious, alone and scared for your future. You may be uncertain about your financial security and that of your children’s (if you have them). Talking with an expert will help you to separate out your intense emotions, so you’re able to communicate your needs and wants effectively.
It is essential to learn tools to transform the Stress Response (fight/flight/freeze) so that your cognitive brain function, ability to think straight and sleep well is not impaired. When we are in high states of stress, all rational thinking goes out of the window. (I am trained specifically in transforming stress).
It’s important to speak with someone who has a toolkit of strategies which empower you to respond rather than react. Lawyers are expensive and are not skilled in helping you to get in control of your emotions. Working with a coach will help you save money.
You Aren't Coping With Your Divorce
Divorce challenges the very essence of our identity and everything we know about ourselves. It's often felt as a complete INSULT TO OUR IDENTITY. Our sense of self can be so tied up in our marriage and partner and divorce threatens that. It knocks at our confidence and even the simplest of decisions can seem overwhelming. You may find you're exhausted in the day and yet have difficulty sleeping at night as you’re not used to being on your own.
Learn to feel stronger and in control, to release negative disempowering emotions and find your emotional centre.
You're worried about the impact of separation or divorce on your children
Divorce is draining and it’s hard enough supporting yourself emotionally and staying strong for your children. It’s difficult to know how much to share with children and how best to support them when your emotions are high. A divorce coach will be able to give you tools to help you be in control and to assist you with your children and co-parenting.
The legalities are confusing and overwhelming
A divorce coach can assist with getting the best support team around you. They will understand the divorce process and help you to gain clarity on your needs and how best to work with your lawyer. One of the biggest issues people face is separating their emotions from facts, and getting the two mixed up when speaking with lawyers and their ex.
You feel it's time to move on but you don't know how
Your divorce is almost complete or you’ve been divorced for some time and yet you haven’t quite moved on.
Often we go through a divorce with the support of good family and friends and without expert help. This can leave us with the emotional baggage of our "ex" and “inner blocks” to moving forward into our new lives. We end up taking the unresolved issues with us in to new relationships. It’s a great time to work with a relationship coach who specialises in healing the past and creating the love you want.
Are there any guarantees? Will it work for me?
I have been where you are now (twice). I know exactly how it feels, the intensity of emotions, the rollercoaster of despair, hurt, confusion and the deep sense of isolation. I had no idea what my future held for me.
Friends and family tried to help. I wish I had someone guide me. In 2010, there were no divorce coaches to be found. I knew in my heart this situation was going to serve me at a deeper level and YES I do believe that was to help others.
I always knew there was a better way to divorce and once I made the decision to focus on me and my healing, I began to thrive. You too can detox your ex and the past by letting go of the hurt. I built a completely new life for my two children, I have a healthy co-parenting relationship with my previous spouse and I have found love again.
My programs work. I am teaching you the exact same tools and strategies that changed my life and that I have been using with my private clients since 2017.
All I ask is that you follow the process, do the inner work and one day at a time you will transform your heartache into happiness. Your fear into love.
To remove any worries, I offer a 14 day money back guarantee.
When is it a good time to start dating and get into a new relationship?
It’s a big step! It’s a long time since you last dated, your confidence has been knocked during the divorce yet you're fed up with being single and sitting home alone night after night!
When is it a good time to date and what’s the best way to go about it? Maxine is a certified Calling In The One Coach, which specialises in attracting the love we desire. Engaged again at 52, finding the most amazing love 8 years after her breakup.
What's your background?
It's important you have the right coach, one that is a good match for you, who you feel comfortable with, and someone you are excited to share the journey with. Likewise, I don't work with everyone.
My coaching is highly practical, a combination of spiritual principles and cutting edge neuroscience techniques. In 1996 I trained in transpersonal psychotherapy and bereavement counselling. I am a certified Relationship Coach, Calling In The One Coach. I have studied Neuro Associative Conditioning, How To Transform Stress, Intuition and Metaphysical Physical Practices. I have been working with individuals and couples since 1997. I absolutely love helping people to have breakthroughs and transform their lives.
I walk my talk, I have successfully and healthily navigated two divorces (in 2000 & 2010), one with the father of my two children, whom I have a very healthy co-parenting relationship. I have a great track record and have been coaching clients since 2000 and using the Divorce Detox Method since 2017. I work with my clients in building their emotional power, clarity in mindset and creating a future they love.
Whilst living in South Africa with my previous husband worked in the corporate environment facilitating Firewalking & Boardbreaking Seminars, I held workshops for women in self empowerment, Magnificent You, The Secrets of Dating, Inner & Outer Beauty.
BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL TO SEE HOW I CAN BEST HELP YOU
The first part of the call is an opportunity for you to get clarity on where you're at, what challenges you are facing and where you want to be in 3-9 months. I will make a recommendation about how I can support you and if you decide to go ahead we will use the rest of the call for coaching.